That was a lovely vacation. Sleeping in, reading on the back porch, playing with the kittens, planting flowers in the window box, and seeing a couple of fine movies . . . lovely. The weather was hyper-compatible too. Blue skies, sunny days, perfect mid-May days. Today was actually a little too warm.
Do I still feel burnt-out? Yes, but I'm not a tired burn-out. I am hoping a corner has been turned.
As I've been looking at different articles about burnout, I realize that it sure is a common issue. Most burnout is job-related (check). I have worked at the business I work at for 35 years come August. In that time we have had five different owners/owner teams. There has been change at each of these changes of teams, and I have always been able to adapt (one of my strong skills). However, the last change that occurred on April 1, 2012 (too funny, eh?) has been the killer. Our owner, who is approaching retirement age (he is three years older than me) brought in a new second in command. This young man is 28, graduated in Hospitality, and was chosen by the boss because he is a good friend from church. The kid is arrogant as all get out, knows everything, has no innate curiosity, and takes credit for all good things that happen (including the weather). Ostensibly he is sales and marketing manager, but in truth he is the little dictator. Argh.
Okay, that is enough fussing for now. I am on vacation. Most articles on burnout suggest changing jobs. Retirement age is coming up, and while I had always assumed I would go to 65, the times, they are a changing.
Burnout is not a simple result of long hours. The cynicism, depression, and lethargy of burnout can occur when you're not in control of how you carry out your job, when you're working toward goals that don't resonate with you, and when you lack social support. If you don't tailor your responsibilities to match your true calling, or at least take a break once in a while, you could face a mountain of mental and physical health problems
Sorry I haven't been around for awhile. I've been trying to cope for the last year with Burn Out. I guess I didn't do a very good job. HOWEVER, I have a week's vacation here in the heart of Michigan, in the prettiest most hopeful month of May, and life will get better. Will you join me on my journey?
Recovering from burnout: Acknowledge your losses Burnout brings with it many losses, which can often go unrecognized. Unrecognized losses trap a lot of your energy. It takes a tremendous amount of emotional control to keep yourself from feeling the pain of these losses. When you recognize these losses and allow yourself to grieve them, you release that trapped energy and open yourself to healing.
Loss of the idealism or dream with which you entered your career
Loss of the role or identity that originally came with your job
Loss of physical and emotional energy
Loss of friends, fun, and sense of community
Loss of esteem, self-worth, and sense of control and mastery
Loss of joy, meaning and purpose that make work – and life – worthwhile